#6: He’s Beginning ‘The Long Goodbye’
This is the reason why men pull away that has the capacity to inspire the most dread—this is it. Yes, your suspicions and those of your friends and family are true. This is it, this is the end, he’s beginning ‘the long goodbye’ and preparing to end the relationship and leave you behind.
What should you do?
Well, of course that’s going to depend on a wide range of different factors, and again is a subject which could warrant its own article. There are plenty of questions to ask, such as:
- Is he worth it?
- What problems have come between you?
- Do you think the situation salvageable?
- How long have you felt this might be the case?
- What are your true feelings towards him?
- What do you think his true feelings towards you are?
So, what answers are available to you given this most dreaded reason why men withdraw? Well, first you’re going to want to take a look at the previous sections again and determine which of them, if any, have led to this point. Is work-related stress driving a wedge between you? Is he ashamed of an affair, or something else he’s done? Have you maybe been mistaking caring for clinginess and have thus alienated him?
And then, of course, there are your feelings to consider. If he’s done something wrong, do you WANT to forgive him? Would it be SMART to do so? And if that isn’t the case, what is it about him that makes you certain that this is meant to be?
Of course, when it comes to why men pull away in relationships, there’s nothing that says you HAVE to stay with him. You are your own person, and are valuable in and of yourself—never forget that.
Nevertheless, if you do genuinely wonder why men pull away, and want to do something about it, hopefully these insights can give you a good start in bringing the two of you together again.