‘What is happiness?’, ‘Why is it so important?’ and ‘Am I ever going to be truly happy?’ These were the questions I used to ask myself, almost every day. Like many of us, I was stuck in an endless routine that never made me happy. I truly wanted to find out what I could do, to just be happy and tried many things.
At the end of it all, I realized that happiness was my choice – I could either choose to be truly happy or keep worrying about things that weren’t really under my control. Most importantly, I realized that it was my mindset that would help me attain happiness.
We face various situations in our life every day. While some of them make us truly happy, other situations make us unhappy and we lose the balance pretty quickly.
For instance, I nursed lofty ambitions and most of them revolved around money. My job made me miserable and I found it difficult to cope with life. Without a job, I’d have no money, so I couldn’t quit and just continued with it. I thought that I would find happiness if I changed my job.
In the span of 2 years, I changed at least 5 jobs, but man, I wasn’t happy. I did make money at the time, but nevertheless, I wasn’t happy. Money was just a tool to buy things, but could I truly find happiness with that? Could I embrace my life, even when I had amassed a significant amount of money? Nope, I couldn’t.
One day, it suddenly struck me. I realized that I was letting unhappy events influence me to a large extent.
In fact, I spent a lot of time thinking about why I was unhappy, instead of focusing on the happy events that occurred.
Like I mentioned, we all face various situations in life, but why are we so fixated with the moments that make us miserable?
Why do we choose to think more about incidents that induce sorrow? Why aren’t we able to focus on positivity and shun all negativity?
I would be lying if I told you that I found perfect answers; however, I do think that I was close to the truth. If I had focused on my job, instead of being influenced by negativity, I would probably be happier.
I changed so many jobs, refusing to settle down in one place, with the wild notion that I would find happiness someday, but seriously, it didn’t convince me.
I was letting other forces dictate my happiness, but the truth was that I was in charge of my own happiness. So, I decided to stop worrying about sad incidents or my mistakes in life that disheartened me and chose to focus on positive things.
I began to find happiness that existed within me. I actually found joy in doing something I loved, no matter how insignificant it was. I also read various books, including Instant Happy: 10-Second Attitude Makeovers that could help me attain happiness.
So in my pursuit of happiness, I realized that we can follow certain steps to find inner peace and I do hope that these 5 tips will help you too