#2: Reddit Red Pill
On the other hand, while there are undoubtedly Perks of Being a Wallflower—like the ability to recognize whether or not they’re playing good music!
Even so, however, taking the reverse extreme and never challenging your partner’s opinion, or waiting too late to even ask someone out, is yet another one of those relationship mistakes you’ll never make again…
Once you learn your lesson, that is.
In the same way that the previous point was more targeted at those with a talkative streak, this tip applies especially to those who are a little shyer about sharing their thoughts with others, be it on Reddit or in person.
Just remember—they can’t say no if you don’t speak up, but they can’t say yes either, and without that, a relationship, online or off it, doesn’t stand a chance.
We’ll explore the ins and outs of the inhibitions (and lack thereof) that people experience in Reddit relationships as well as the real thing momentarily, but for now, it’s just worth noting that you’ll never even get to experience all that if you hesitate in asking for too long. Agonize over every little word, and you’ll soon find it’s too late.
Then there’s the flip side of that equation, those who wait too long to say no and get out of a relationship. Remember, a relationship should make you feel better, not worse. Even if you’re in a rut, if you don’t get a good vibe from the person you’re talking to, it’s OK to refuse their advances as you will.
That may sound a little old-fashioned and full of Jane Austen-esque drama, but while waiting until it’s too late can be a mistake, sacrificing good judgment for a quick fling can be even worse.