Having an open and frank discussion with friends and family about your getting a prenup can be difficult, to say the least. In one respect, that awkwardness can be understandable. We’ve built up so much of a stigma around this particular legal option.
It can be hard to discuss a prenuptial agreement when you are engaged without planting a seed of doubt in the minds of your friends, which dreaded thought ‘He/she’s going to break up with him/her!’ And that, in turn, can lead to gossip and in-laws badgering you and a massive headache.
All that being said, however, it’s important to note that the reactions of others might influence your decision, but it does and must ultimately rest with you.
You cannot allow yourself to be pressured into doing (or not doing) something as a result of others’ influence. This kind of legal agreement exists, in fact, to help you retain a sense of autonomy, at least in an economic sense.
It’s important to note that your getting a prenuptial agreement is not and should not be interpreted by friends or family as your ‘preparing to fail’ in your relationship. After all, no one says that about homeowners or car insurance, and at its core, that’s precisely what a prenup is—insurance.
And with study after study showing problems mounting in the world of marriage, you would indeed be wise to take out some insurance to protect your assets against potential post-marital disaster. Better safe than sorry.