#1: Lesbian Lovers: The Last Tango In Paris?
Doing Der Pariser Tango with your partner, as it were, can be a pretty tricky thing. You both know the ‘steps,’ and you certainly know the ‘tune,’ but making the ‘dance’ fresh and exciting each and every time? That’s going to take some doing. Some tips?
Variety. Even your favorite dance or tune gets old if you do it every single night. Change things up a bit.
Reciprocity. Are you just a little too country, while your partner’s just a little too rock and roll? Dance to their beat, and maybe they will feel more inclined to yours out in turn.
Similarly, if you’re a fan of some positions, and she prefers others, let her have her preference, with the understanding that maybe in the future the favor can be repaid. Three-ways are one thing—and often one-sided—but there’s nothing ‘spicier’ than a two-way street. After all, again, it really does take two to tango.
Ask. What could be going wrong? Ask. Don’t be embarrassed, and certainly don’t let fear of embarrassment stand in the way of your happiness. After all, to go back to our ‘dancing’ metaphor—it really does take two to tango.
It’s a cliché, but it’s true. If she’s moving at a different pace than you are, then you two are going to wind up out of step, and that’s so often the precise moment when that tango ceases to be ‘¡muy caliente!’ and becomes instead more like ‘¡que lastima!’
Avoid the Clichés. Paris and tangos, as symbols of romance and a way to put the spice back into your relationship? Total clichés. But do as we say, rather than we do—avoid clichés.
Roses and chocolates, satin sheets, ‘innovative’ new positions in bed, etc.—all clichés. Be bold, and try something new. If something isn’t spicy enough, often times, it’s bland, and if it’s bland it might feel a bit ‘same-y.’
Avoid clichés—they won’t add spice to your lesbian relationship, just more sighs of resigned politeness.