So, you’ve sat there for minutes, hours, maybe even days now—well, hopefully not days—replaying the events in your mind, the good times, the bad, your first meeting and your last goodbye, all culminating in a single question—’Why???’—and a single mission, how to get your ex-boyfriend back!
For starters, let’s take a step back, a deep breath, and ask another question—should you get him back? Or, rather, should he get you back? Does he deserve your compassion and companionship, or are you better off?
That’s a hefty topic, to be sure, and a subject for another day (and another article) but it is nevertheless worth considering. Too often we let our fear or abandonment or of otherwise being alone drive us to be obsessive and make rash and overall poor decisions about the type of company we keep.
It’s entirely possible your ex was and is an amazing guy. It’s also possible he was irresponsible, inattentive or (G-d forbid) abusive.
With that out of the way, let’s refocus our attempts on getting your ex boyfriend back.
Playing Matchmaker M.D. and patching up your relationship is like an episode of House M.D.—we need to do a differential diagnosis and find out what illness was plaguing your partnership in the first place before we can get you on the road to recovery.
Here, then, are six tips on how to get your ex back