How to Get Him to Commit

How to Get Him to Commit To a Serious Relationship

In Relationship Advice for Women by Interconnected Lives

#2: Make It So, and Make It Clear Where You Stand

Captain Kirk, Captain Picard, Captains not named Kirk or Picard and are thus inherently inferior—

Whether you’re commanding the bridge of the Starship Enterprise or just looking for a way how to make him commit already, leadership and being able to take the lead is always an invaluable asset to have.

It takes two to tango—which, aside from the fun mental image of Kirk and Spock or Picard and Data dancing across the bridge, is itself a good metaphor to use for relationships, and ties us back into that aforementioned idea of taking the lead.

Whether you’re tangoing, waltzing, or just the biggest Dancing with the Stars fan ever, dance partners commonly lead and follow one another.  If neither partner leads, you may have a problem.  This can be especially true if one of the partners in question is nervous about dancing in the first place.  A relationship is like a dance in that sometimes you lead, and sometimes you follow, but without balance, you won’t have to worry about how to get him to commit.

Someone HAS to take the lead, Kirk-style (minus the ripped shirts and Shatner-izing.)

The bottom line here?  In considering how to make him commit, allow for the possibility he’s nervous about things going wrong or disappointing you if things get more serious.

Granted, you shouldn’t have to do this every single time, and if you find that that’s the case, you may want to reevaluate whether he’s your Number One, but if you truly want them to Make it so, sometimes you have to take the lead yourself.