#2: Don’t Go Over the Edge
Life changes suddenly after a major incident. For me, that major incident was my divorce. It changed me in ways I couldn’t believe. My first thought was to simply call him and beg him to come back to me, but we had separated under such horrible circumstances that I couldn’t bear to do that.
Every night, I would torture myself with my fingers on the phone and it took a lot of will power to not call him. It would take only a minute to dial his number and beg for his mercy, but what would that achieve? Would he really come back running to me? Something told me that it wasn’t as simple as that.
Pretty soon, I changed my ways. Instead of calling him and sounding desperate, I figured that I was better off without calling him. I had to play hard to get my ex-husband back. Similarly, if you’re wondering about getting back together after a divorce, you need to be unavailable.
Yep, you read that right. If you’re going to call him and force him to come back to you, your relationship won’t last long even if he does. For a relationship to work, both parties need to feel that it would work. Both of you have to be willing to give the time it requires. I wasn’t sure about what my ex-husband was feeling at the time, so I decided not to call him.