#1: Give Some Time Alone For Yourself
They say that time is the best healer. When I separated from my husband, I was depressed and frustrated. I had different mood swings and had a hard time just being myself. Everything was extremely confusing and I found it hard to concentrate on anything in my life.
Things that were easy to do were suddenly hard and I found it impossible to continue. That’s when I decided that enough was enough. I had to take a breather.
For a few weeks, I focused only on myself. I made myself forget about everything else and I only thought about my needs. Later, after I could finally get a grip on my feelings, I contemplated about what went wrong with my marriage.
Was it worth the tears I shed? Why did we separate? Who was to blame? There were a multitude of questions and I simply cleared my head to find the answers.
If you’re in the same stage and wondering what went wrong, think about whether it’s really worth the headache. Oh, and don’t forget the heartache! It seems like they go hand in hand. The first thing I did was to figure out if my marriage and my ex-husband really mattered to me.
After thinking about it for several days, and from various angles, I decided that it was all worth it. I couldn’t forget the time I had spent with him and yearned for him to get back into my life.
If you decide that it’s not worth it even if he gets back into your life, then you must think of other ways to move on; however, if you really love him, then try to think about what went wrong with your marriage.
Why did you get the divorce? Did he lie to you? Do you think he still loves you? You’ll have to think about all these questions and find the answers yourself. Try not to be judgmental and give your ex-husband the benefit of doubt too. After all, it takes two to tango.