#3: The Establishment of Clear Rules
If you know anyone with Oppositional Defiant Disorder, you probably know that they love arguing about fairness and rules. They are always trying to figure out loopholes and strive to escape from whatever they can.
It happened in my case as well. Whether it was about following a timetable or organizing his things, he did his best to break loose from everything.
My doctor suggested I establish a clear set of household rules and regulations.
Therefore, I posted all the rules over the walls of his room as well as on the fridge.
So, whenever my son said “I don’t want to complete my homework now”, I’d say, “Check your timetable! You were supposed to begin at 4 o’clock!”
However, one important thing is that rules should be kept as simple as possible and there’s no need to make a bewildering long list, since it provokes already provoked kids!
You can include the homework, daily chores, respect and bedtime in the timetable as reminders.
I also wrote some rules regarding particular behavioral problems such as respecting elders and treating friends in a good way. Some of the examples are explicated below:
- No hurting, either physical or emotional (no kicking, pushing, hitting, yelling)
- Ask permission in order to borrow anything that belongs to others.
- Remember to knock the door gently before you get in. .
- Never lie
- After dinner, electronics should be turned off