Years ago I gave birth to Sara, my beautiful baby daughter, and my life completely changed. I realized that child rearing wasn’t an easy process and that I would have to take extra care with the way my child developed mentally and physically.
Since it was my first experience in child rearing, I was very apprehensive about everything. I was only 28 at the time and was worried that I would somehow be responsible if something went wrong.
I also read about child rearing practices and was fascinated about the different styles. It was as though a new world had opened up for me and I regretted that I hadn’t prepared myself on child rearing.
My husband tried to reason with me, saying that if others could raise good children, we would succeed too. However, I wanted my child to be perfect. I wanted to provide everything to my daughter and ensure that there was no lack of support from my end.
Added to everything was the fear that I was incapable of taking care of my child. I could only talk about my deepest fears with my husband, and though he tried to convince me that I would be a splendid mother, I had trouble believing it. So, I read everything about child rearing and thankfully, a lot of what I read helped us to a large extent.
A child undergoes multiple stages and the brain develops pretty quickly at this point.
Of course, a child’s development can vary significantly and genetics also matter; however, I intended to help my child as much as I could during this stage.
After all, my daughter would benefit a lot in the future since this stage would have a mighty influence on her.
She was just a toddler by then, but even at that stage, I realized that I could play a big role in how her mental, physical, communication and intellectual abilities would develop.
Her brain and body would be growing at an astonishingly fast rate and I hoped to provide the necessary support and encouragement she required. The book The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind opened my eyes to a lot of things. Basically, it explained the concept of a child’s upstairs and downstairs brain.
Another book on child rearing, The 5 Love Languages of Children was also instrumental to help me monitor the progress of my kid. This book was about learning the love language of your child and it was immensely helpful.
Also, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk was an impressive child rearing book, since I learnt that a lot of things could be simplified, and it wasn’t really difficult for me to make my child listen to me.
The ‘upstairs brain’ has the capability to balance emotions and take decisions, and it will develop until the child grew up to be a teenager. I also learnt that the right brain often ruled over the left brain and this made children throw tantrums and fights. At this point, my baby was in her ‘Terrible Twos’ and I was beginning to feel the pressure of child rearing. My sweet little munchkin was throwing tantrums already!
I employed a few key strategies described in the child rearing books and if you need help with your own toddlers, read on to find out more on child rearing survival skills