There are a few relationship skills we all wish we possessed—how to sound smart and witty on a date, how to order wine in public without mangling the pronunciation, how to “make a move” without coming on too strong and, and, yes, how to know when a relationship is over.
We have a habit of viewing things narratively, and as such, we tend to want a “happy ending” to our individual dating stories, and in a way that’s not totally surprising.
The modern novel is derived from, among other sources, the Medieval Romance—think King Arthur, Guinevere, Sir Lancelot, and the Knights of the Round Table. However, if you know the Arthurian Legend, then you know that things don’t end well there, either.
In fact, being able to know a when a relationship is over might have come in handy in the course of those legends. And because we view things narratively, a messy or unsatisfying end to a relationship can feel like a “failure” on our part somehow.
After all, you’ve invested so much time in this “story” you’ve been creating between yourself and this other person—surely you deserve that pure and simple truth and satisfaction which comes from a happy ending, right?
However, as Algernon from Oscar Wilde’s The Importance of Being Earnest observes, “The truth is rarely pure and never simple.”
Here are 6 signs help you know when a relationship is over